People often wonder why relationships start out so harmoniously and lovingly and then seem to sour as time goes by. A very simple explanation is that any relationship starts out with a clean state. Then, as two people spend time with each other, each starts to become aware, consciously or sub consciously, of the other’s weak points and negative beliefs. So, here again, the key is to dig up the limiting beliefs and eradicate them.
They are poisonous and can poison relationships, job situation, and life itself. There is always a solution.
We need to take matters in our own hands, and only accept and nurture those beliefs that support our perfect health and happiness.
Buddha, on one of his rounds he was repulsed by a householder with bitter words of abuse. He replied, Friend, if a householder sets food before a beggar, but the beggar refuses to accept the food, to who does the food then belong?
The man replied, why, to the householder of course.
The Buddha said, then, if I refuse to accept your abuse and ill will, it returns to you, does it not?
Beloved Saibandhu, let us consider following the policy of refusing ill will and hatred from the world, then we will find the whole universe is harmonious and glorious.
Shri Hemadpant described an incident of slanderer and Baba’s lesson to him. These are very powerful words that every one in this world must digest this truth. If they understand the repulsing effect of ill feeling and hatred, then no one in this world will ever think of telling any hard words against anyone. How many times have you been hurt by what someone said about you? How many times have you doubted your self-worth because someone criticized you, either to your face or behind your back? Why do we react with such self-doubt or indignation when someone criticizes us, or says negative things about us?
I find that our reaction reflects our negative and limiting beliefs about us. If someone said something bad about you and you knew completely within every cell of your body that it was untrue, it would not bother you. You would simply shrug it off and would roll off you like water on a duck’s back.
The reason criticism upsets us is that we also, somehow, somewhere, deep within us, belief it to be true or at least we wonder if it might be true.
Once you have list of guilt’s, big and small, ask yourself and write down what belief you have formed from each one. You may be surprised at the results.
Then really reflect and meditate on these lists. Dig deep and you’ll find those belittling beliefs and attitudes then you can pull out the weeds. You deserve to have a Garden of Eden within yourself and around you, not the weeds of judgment, disharmony, and self-condemnation. Love yourself and pull out the weeds, otherwise they may pop at the most unexpected times and sabotage the most beautiful situations.
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